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Thursday, June 27, 2019

What Does The Wedding Party Actually Do?

Today on The Bride Link podcast, we're talking all about your wedding party and what types of tasks and errands you can expect them to do for you when you're getting married!

So, of course, you know the wedding parties in charge of getting their bridesmaid dress and their tuxes, but what else are they supposed to do? Well, here's a list of a few things that you can expect from them and just keep in mind they might not know and you might need to ask. So first, the wedding party helps the couple with various tasks during the planning process. This can include addressing invitations, packing up items for the wedding, craft projects, contacting people that didn't RSVP and more just depending on what you need. The bride and groom might ask the wedding party to help them decide on difficult decisions like being present when the bride chooses her wedding gown. Before the event, the wedding party is in charge of planning, bridal showers, bachelorette parties, bachelor parties, and sometimes even wedding night surprises! This typically would be done by the maid of honor or the best man, but you also might want to check with parents because sometimes moms love to throw bridal showers. 

The wedding party typically is expected to attend the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner before the wedding. Although I have seen some people when they are traveling from far distances not be able to make the rehearsal and don't worry, the wedding went off just fine. The wedding party helps the bride and groom get ready for the wedding day and if this is a DIY wedding, this could include doing some set up for the event. So be prepared if you agree to be part of a wedding party and you know they're doing a lot of things themselves, to roll up your sleeves early in the morning and help out when needed during setup. 

Someone from the wedding party may even save the day! We specifically had a wedding where the bride forgot her veil, but she just didn't forget it at home or somewhere nearby. She was actually from out of state. We were in Tennessee, she was from Ohio and it was really important to her and her photos that she has a long cathedral bail, just like the one that she had purchased and intended on wearing. Her maid of honor was determined to find a veil for her, so she called a local bottle shop in the area, found one through texting photos back and forth, and paid for it on her way to the bridal shop. She picked it up and made it back with 15 minutes to spare before photography started. It was definitely an anxious day for the bride and myself as the wedding planner, but she most definitely pulled off the bride's expectations of having a veil on her when she walked down the aisle. 

The wedding party should also attend to the couple's needs throughout the day. So for example, you would expect the bridesmaids to help that bride take her veil off after the ceremony is over and then help her bustle her dress before she enters the reception. A lot of times this might take a few people to be involved just in case somebody from the wedding party isn't around, you have a few different options of bridesmaids to asks for help. So most definitely take multiple bridesmaids with you when you're learning how to bustle your dress at your dress fittings!

The wedding party is also in charge of giving speeches during the reception. Typically the maid of honor and best man, but it can be more people or less if you want to. The wedding party can be in charge of smaller things as well, such as bringing ice or packing up the wedding gifts at the end of the night. I always suggest having somebody in charge of getting the bride's bouquet at the end of the night. We also suggest asking one person in the wedding party to help you pack your bag of personal items at the end of the night. For example, in the bridal suite, the bride may have a duffle bag that should include her purse, cell phone, makeup bag, a change of shoes, and the clothes that she wore before getting into her dress. As a wedding planner, I will not touch your personal items for multiple reasons. If anything is lost, stolen, or damaged, I don't want to be involved in packing a bag where I might be accused of stealing somebody's wallet. Also, I don't know what stuff belongs to you. It's going to be really hard for me to pick between the four pink cell phones in the bridal suite, which one is the brides and which one goes in the duffle bag. This is one of the reasons why it should be a maid of honor or bridesmaid, preferably somebody that knows the bride well. Now after the wedding, the wedding party serves as your support system to the couple in their new marriage, encouraging their love and helping them see through arguments and fights long after the wedding day.

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