Knoxville Wedding
Brittany Sidwell Photography
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Monday, August 14, 2017

Modern Wedding Etiquette 101: Unexpected RSVP's

Modern Wedding Etiquette 101 – Unexpected RSVPs

How should I tell a guest they aren’t able to bring a date or their kids?

When RSVPs flow in and questions are asked about your cousin Monica bringing her five children (even though no kids were listed on the invite), it’s best to have a kind and candid response prepared. Because even with a clear and appropriate invitation, a guest might still RSVP additional people or call and ask if they can bring a date or their children. RSVPs usually arrive just weeks before your big day and you’ll want to diffuse any additional stress.

To help you create a response to your family member or friend, we’ve listed some common reasons for not having additional guests along with easy, exact scripting for you to use. These words will resolve your wedding guest inquiries so you can focus on other important details.

Remember, you won’t be able to make everyone happy. No matter what challenge you are facing, keep in mind that your wedding is a very important day for you and your fiancé — not everyone else.


Budget – “Due to the tight budget for our wedding and reception, we unfortunately are not able to accommodate extra guests. We are so sorry for the inconvenience and appreciate your understanding. We hope you are still able to celebrate with us on our big day!”

Venue Size – “Our venue accommodates only a certain number of guests, and with the family and friends we have invited, we unfortunately do not have space for additional guests. We are so sorry and appreciate your understanding. We hope you’re still able to celebrate with us!”

No Kids – “The style and atmosphere of our wedding and reception is designed for adults only. We apologize for the inconvenience and hope you are still able to attend. There are several babysitters in the area, and I’d be happy to connect you with them if you are interested.”

Small, Intimate Atmosphere – “For our wedding and reception, we’ve decided to invite only our closest family members and friends. A small, intimate celebration is what we’ve chosen for our wedding day, and therefore, we won’t be able to accommodate additional guests. You are so special to us and we hope you are able to join us.”

When delivering these messages, embrace your inner kindness and confidence. Be sure to let people know they are important and special, and that you are sorry you’re not able to accommodate their request. Those that love you will still be by your side. You won’t be able to please everyone, and that’s okay. Keep focused on what’s important to you. You want to enjoy your final days before marriage and celebrate with a stress-free wedding day!

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